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  • Papa & Mama

    We are all different.  Thank goodness.   My husband and I are most assuredly different.  Thank even MORE goodness.  Our differences compliment each other and we have this fantastic little nucleus of a family.
    My husband is the “Albert Einstein” of our family, this according to Cylas.  And I am, just “mama”.  One day I asked him what he thought I did all day and he answered, “you sit and clean, and sew.”  Good answer.

    So, maybe I am the little motor under our house that keeps things rolling.  Motor mama.  That’s me.
    I’m also the one who does most of the parenting.  No, I don’t mean I single-handedly raise our children, I just spend the bulk of my day with my babies…so if there are any glaring bad habits…*sigh* guilty.

    The there are huge differences that set D and I apart when it comes to parenting.  He is much more harsh and demanding than I am.  He isn’t over the top, but he will push harder than I will.  Case in point, potty training.  He was the catalyst in Roma’s training.  Cy’s beedee.  He was firm, yet loving in helping Cy with this emotional task.
    Me, on the other hand, I tend to put myself in my children’s shoes and get a little emotional.  They may not see just how emotional I am, but my logic and reasoning is tampered with making my responses a little halfhearted, which gives them the go ahead to do what they want and not what needs to be done.  I am firm and have a brusk way about me, and my children know this.  Mama doesn’t mess around.  She might be a softy for little pieces of blankets or holding out on potty training until “she is ready for it” but don’t cross her when it comes to picking up your room, folding your clothes, taking the dishes to the sink or making unnecessary messes.  How many times Cy has elbowed his milk off the table and then quickly jumped down to clean it up, I’ll never know.  But I can say this, his milk doesn’t fall as often anymore.
    Both our children know that their papa is the one who “fixes everything”.  Cylas can’t wait to build with his papa.  D has taught our very active son so much about focusing and attention to detail.  I listen as they are drawing together, D will lean over Cy as he’s coloring and give him tips about keeping all the color in the lines, or when they’re doing origami activities he will make sure Cy knows that all the corners must be lined up perfectly and then pressed down flat.

    Our style of parenting is open and free.  My children have the freedom to express themselves or tell “their side of the story”.  They have a voice and it’s important I listen to it and stay in tune with it.  I love the balance in our home between child and parent, love and correction, fun and structure.  For us, it works just fine.

    What do you do in your house?

     

    Oh, and thank you to my fairy blog mother, Ana for helping inspire me on this post. I love you!

    1 Sep 2011, 3:43pm
    by Carissa Jackson

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    Misha,
    Whether you realize it or not, this post was so sweet to an outside reader as myself. While Bobby and I don’t have our own children yet, I fully know (even at 2 months of marriage & 1.5 years of dating) we are very different. We’ve talked about the same things you are posting. I know our parenting styles will be different and we will learn/adjust as we go. The beautiful thing is he gives me what I need (and vise versa). The same will be for our kids. Your kids need certain aspects of you and different aspects of David. Your kids are blessed to have you as mommy and David as daddy.

    Love ya!

    1 Sep 2011, 3:50pm
    by Mommy Hobbies

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    Thank you! I never know how my posts will be taken sometimes, but I do know that I want to share, because parenting is important!
    I’m sure you and B will settle on the perfect balance. Of course, not without its rough patches, but you will find a beautiful yin and & yan beginning to develop as the years pass. You will be a fabulous mommy, Kissa. I can just see it now :)

    I love this Misha!!! Love ya

    1 Sep 2011, 4:28pm
    by Mommy Hobbies

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    Thank you, Sis! *hugs*

    I tend to be the one that thinks everything is funny, and be more laid back in my parenting. Scott is more the disciplinarian than I am. We both have different trigger points, I guess all families are like that. That being said, we are both pretty relaxed in our parenting style.

    1 Sep 2011, 4:52pm
    by Mommy Hobbies

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    That’s good! Sometimes, I’m a little more uptight than I need to be, admittedly. Uhg. But D helps balance me out with that too.

    1 Sep 2011, 5:29pm
    by Amanda S.

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    Well Meesh, we will see what happens when Nate becomes a daddy…I remember as a baby Cy loved Nate, he would give me a “curtousy hold” and then inch his way over to Nate, so cute. I think it’s because Nate is easy going like D, D is major easy going and kids can sense that and it makes them comfy. I give you props on being one of the most creative mamas I know. I love you friend, you and D are great with your lil’ munchers, can’t wait to see them again.
    Next time…

    Love ya :)

    1 Sep 2011, 5:48pm
    by Mommy Hobbies

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    Awww, you and Nate will fabulous parents, Amanda!! I miss you all, too. :( And I so remember those “courtesy hugs” hahah.

     

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