Chronicles Of A Stay At Home Mom life: character having a good character practicing the fruits of the spirit
by Mommy Hobbies
In my napsack stash
It shouldn’t be. I mean, having good character is basically as easy as choosing between what’s right and wrong, then choosing to do what is right…but, wait, that’s not all.
Isn’t it choosing to do what’s right even when no one is looking? *sigh* Yes. Even when no one is looking, no one to tell you how awesome you are for making the right choice, which does wonders for the pride and self-esteem, I’m sure.
The past several months I’ve been plagued with the thoughts of a good character and how to employ it or come by it. It’s become quite evident that you can’t just “come by it”. It happens over the course of years, over the course of different tests and situations.
You see, my character, as it were, is the manifestation of the fruits of the spirit inside me (Gal 5:22-23), which should not be confused with my personality. My personality is the distinctiveness of traits or qualities specific to me. (told you this has been on my mind for a while) So, this means that if someone wrongs me, because that is usually when it’s the perfect time to test those fruits, I can not blame MY inability to handle said situation on my personality OR the other person. You know…the blame game?
“Well, if YOU hadn’t done this I wouldn’t have done…blah,blah,blah [insert stupid, non-responsibility taking excuse here].”
*clears throat* Now, if I’m barking up your tree, sit with me for a while, because I’m singing my own song — in public.
I have truly failed the character test at times. Embarrassed to admit it, but it’s true. I’ve broken down and exchanged imaginary words with said offender/s. And even once or twice, I’ve actually spoken them to that person’s face. In my opinion, they needed to hear what I thought of them. Hahah. Yeah, told you I was singing loud.and.clear.
But, whether or not I make a mistake, my character should be the one part of my being that holds me in place. It’s my foundation. It should be unshakable, firm, built to last and pull through any sort of trauma. If it is all of those things, then I have a place to go back to for reference. “Ok, self, this is NOT how you handle that, you need to practice a little more long-suffering. Have some compassion, will ya?!”
So, back to the difficulty of maintaining a good character. Sometimes you take low blows, other times, you take the high road, and while other times, the road to take isn’t clear, it’s muddled, and confusing. I was in a situation early last year that pushed me to the brink. I literally wanted to strangle my “situation”. Literally. I didn’t know what the right thing was to do. Honestly! It was SO difficult. Then, I read the most amazing thing in 1 Samuel 24:12.
12 Let the Lord judge between you and me, and let the Lord avenge me on you. But my hand shall not be against you.
What a peace I received from this verse. Total and complete peace. Now, if ever this person tries to come up against me in that manner again I can answer with calm assurance that the Lord knows the right from the wrong and HE will judge. But as for me, I will mind my character. Let God piece out the rest.
“Character is what you are. Reputation is what people think you are.”
― Henry H. Saunderson