Chronicles Of A Stay At Home Mom: judging other parenting styles mother judging
by Mommy Hobbies
In my napsack stash
Every mother does it, right? You go to a play group, or you’re in the nursery at church, you’re running errands at the store and you see a misbehaving child.
What a little brat
Sometimes watching a meltdown in action is like watching a train wreck, you just can’t stop.
kicking, screaming, back arching
How many times I’ve seen these instances of children acting out and then how many times I’ve been the one with the *horrible* child…well, we’ll never know. I lost count and I hoped to minimize the chances of that ever happening to me in public. It’s such a hard space to be in!
hitting, biting, scratching
It’s so easy to frown on a misbehaved child and then give their mom or dad the evil eye. I’m guilty. I am also guilty of shutting children up by staring, making them very uncomfortable as they act out against their parents quite disrespectfully. Children know (once they reach a certain age), and they use their public displays of disagreeable behavior to put papa or mama in a tough position. I can say that baby R has started to throw herself on the ground, and God help me if this were to ever happen in public. It’s bad enough my child tells people they are old and going to “die”. I most certainly do not need a foul behavior to mortify me even more.
I tend to lose my patience.
sticking out their tongue, spitting, throwing things
Even though there are some children who are clearly the boss in their family, even at the tender age of two, it’s not my problem. I can’t change them and I most certainly can’t change their parents parenting. I have my own little hellions to deal with.
Currently, my biggest problem, with them both, is in church. They are really hard to control and I refuse to run in and out trying to cajole them into obedience. Lately, baby R has been insisting that I hold her in church. Uhg! So, I compromised, during worship she can stand on the chair and hug me so I can have my hands free, but feel like I’m holding her. Cy’s big thing is wanting to play with papa’s phone during church. That really bothers me. *sigh*
And as easy going as I try to be, truth be told, people correcting my child for me bothers me. I won’t say anything, and if they have a legitimate concern, I go along with it, but I get annoyed. I’m annoyed with myself because it makes me feel like I’ve failed my child somehow and my child shouldn’t ever have to have someone other than D or I calling them out. (that’s just me being unreasonable, thinking my child wouldn’t ever act out in public or be reprimanded by another adult)